Proud to know ya, sister. This is encouraging. Whatever happens, we love you. Hey, if you get a minute, go check on Cookie. Peace. love, Goldey
Thank you, Goldey. You can bet I will be checking on Cookie right now.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I am extremely grateful to God for the wonderful blessing of my h showing up with a suitcase to stay in the extra bedroom. No, things are not 100% and they are not like they were. But, his asthma was going crazy from the woodstove at his parents. I told him to come home.
I am under no illusions that we are "fixed" and have no idea if this will help or hurt. All I know is that I can be in the moment and not look beyond the minute I am in. He is here, we are adults trying to rebuild, we care about each other, that is all that is certain right now.
That is great that he is willing to stay in the same house as you. No it doesn't mean things are fixed. But things are good enough that he is now comfortable staying in the same house. One small step at a time. I actually think that is a big step even if it is for his asthma.
It provides more opportunities for positive communication and way to build a bit more on the bridge back to each other. Wonderful to hear.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Just 1 little update, the mail had a confirmation that he officially changed his mailing address to home. I didn't want to believe he was home for good, or to count on it, but now I know that is what he is doing. Things have been low-key and casual.
I am still not assuming anything. He is in the other bedroom, but I get a kiss goodnight and in the morning before he leaves for work. Other than that I'm not going to get ahead of myself.
I have not yet told my son that his father moved home. He has been busy with school and work. I was going to tell him last night, but he wasn't able to meet for dinner as I hoped.
I hope everyone is planning to have a wonderful Christmas. I know I am.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Got him to change his address. What's the plan to get him to change bedrooms??????
Merry Christmas to you KJo.
Send our regards to SMW.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Got him to change his address. What's the plan to get him to change bedrooms??????
Merry Christmas to you KJo.
Send our regards to SMW.
Cheers
That is certainly a million dollar question. I've been told its, "One day at a time," so that is what I am rolling with. Believe me, I'd love to light some candles and wait here in a teddy for him to come home, but he still has ED that he hasn't addressed with the doctor. The teddy and candles are at the ready, he is in God's hands.
I will pass on the regards to SMW. I sent her kids some things with the instruction to share. I hope I haven't started a war!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. No updates here. Everything is quiet, which is just the way I prefer it.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
