newmama, I took this from your response to P17

WS starts acting distant, moody. They may be picking on the BS. They seem to put up a wall.WS says things like ILYBINILWY, why did we get married, do you ever think you could be happier with someone else, what do we have in common anymore, etc.They rewrite the marriage history.WS asks for a separation to "sort things out" and have some space.

WS suddenly has a new lover--whoa, how did they meet in 4 days? THEY DIDN'T.



This is exactly what happened in my case but I am still hoping that the woman I found after 6 days was not "the OW" because that would mean he would have left us after just having an EA at least - it would lower my opinion of him even more.
Who leaves his kids for a woman he has only an EA with??? I mean come on - let's just hope there is more to my story then this.