Moving on with my life!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

SO2, I think that is a good idea, to go to xmas and then leave before dinner.

You do not owe an explaination to your XH at all for the garnishment and at least not to say it causes you both stress, you maybe but certainly not him.

no, she doesn't OWE an explanation, but have we forgotten our DB principles? We need to continue to plant ourselves in other peoples shoes. I'm sorry, but that is how I look at things, no matter what the sitch, I'm going to try to understand how the other person feels and what they might be thinking, and how can I present myself, or change the situation to make it better for both people.

the other thing is, what is YOUR VISION SO2?? If your vision is to put exh out of your life as much as possible..well, then who cares what you do, and what you do to him. BUT, as I mentioned, the firstmost important step is helping your D have the best R she can have with her father. SO ultimately, the choices you make will have a big affect on this.

Or, do you have a vision that maybe someday your exH, and your M will be saved? Again, your choices will have an affect. You can be an encourager to exH to help him live the right path, or you can do the opposite. I'm not saying to be a doormat and be all nicey nicey, I'm saying for you to be the best mom, woman you can be living your own life, and in the meantime set healthy boundaries and be extremely consistent with him, and build his character up by encouraging his good behavior and using your boundaries for his bad behavior, for ex. ignoring his rude texts.

Depending on your level of emotional health, will also determine how much you should allow exH to be in your life as well. I don't see a problem with them spending some holiday time together..neither of them are remarried, and I know that both of them have some desire to be together.

SO2, your going to have to judge this for yourself. Spending more time with him can set you up for expectations and even false hope. I believe in hope, but you have to live in your head that you are not with him, and if he changes praise God, and if he doesn't, well, you aren't affected by it because your living your life. does that make sense? I believe everyone can change, but I don't want to see you hurt yourself either, as someone mentioned about about you getting hurt after the party. That's why you GAL and build yourself up, so that your emotionally strong, you love yourself, you do not rely on exh or anyone except God to put a price on your worth.

If you feel your emotional stability waivers, then take some steps back, but because he is the father of your child, it would be wonderful to see how you can help him learn to change and become a great father, a great man, and maybe someday a great husband if that's what you want.