I was searching for a may to describe my situation and I think you hit it just right!! The old farmer is getting the milk and not feeding it, I mean me! This is a very weird place that I am in. I want to do things so that I can remind in his life and build back trust with him, I know that takes time, but maybe he is not ready yet? I have tickets to a show in January that orginally purchased for me and the OM, but now that that is over I am going to ask my ex-h, if he says yes then I guess thats step one closer but if he says no, then I think that will open up a discussion. We got a ton of snow this weekend. I had our d and he told me he would call me when he got home, he had to plow three houses then help his brother out, d called him and left message. He ended up calling the apt at 11:30 at night. He was like sorry I woke you but I wanted to let you know that I was home.If he didn't care about me, or had someone else, I don't think he would have called me, because, I was going to see him the next morning anyway. I'm stuck and I an't get up!!! I hope all is well with you, I'll check your other stitch