AF - What do you want? If you want her back home and can forgive her then make up a timeline for this stuff. You are back in the driver seat.
Tell her "ok if you go to counseling then after our first session I will take her off my FB page. Not because you want me to, but because I plan on recommiting to this marriage just like I fully EXPECT you to." Make a list of short and long term goals for you both.
I ask you again. What do you want? You can't keep on punishing her like this. Either accept her and her mistakes or cut her loose. Either way you have tithered yourself to her and this R. Cut or reel her back in. If you dont think you can ever forgive her and it can never be the same. Then that is your answer. Move on.
