feel like giving up - talk to me!

[mindfull]

LUVLUVLUVLUVLUV:

I have a suggestion, and you had the perfect chance to implement it last night.

So, he came home, acted like a NORMAL H, opened the wine gift, asked to share it w/you, talked like a NORMAL H, and...

Luv inititated a R talk... Not just A R talk... One that was fairly aggressive (even if said in a calm tone).

This may sound basic, BUT...

How about doing just like what you did for the kids when they were young????? REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR

Enjoy the wine! Enjoy the talk! (Hell, you might learn something, especially since the possibility of an A is w/someone he works with!) Enjoy THIS KIND OF TIME TOGETHER!


And...


When he comes home in jackas$ mode, call him on it. Tell him, "H, listen, I know you're not happy. Neither am I. I think we need to spend some time apart right now. You need to go find somewhere else to be UNTIL you can be pleasant."

Whatcha think?

GUARANTEED he can feel your hatred, boredom, etc., etc., when he talks to you (when he's feeling normal).

SO WHY BE NORMAL?



Just remember, girlfriend, I FEEL YOUR PAIN.