Donna, BND, and Gabby: I hope the Alanon is helpful too. I haven't been in 2 years and then I had a different mindset. You cannot reason with a drunk. No way, no how. Even when they are sober they are so guilt ridden that they blameshift anyway.
I really don't know what to do on Xmas. My atty says since I have sole custody he does have the right to see baby on Xmas along with his family. He said there are some things I will have to suck up and do to keep the sole custody. This may be one. No, I don't plan on staying too long, but I will go. I just keep it in my mind that baby is visiting and the one he wants there...I am purely the bodyguard! LOL
Can you go to SIL's house, spend a little time exchanging pleasantries, then leave before dinner? Make it clear before you go that you will not be staying for their family dinner, and don't let anyone guilt you into staying.
That is kinda what I was thinking too.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
