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[/quote]There's a lot of clarity in your sitch that somehow confuses you way more than it should. His texting is meaningless in the grand scheme of things. Who the heck cares if he sends you a note to "kiss the baby" b/c he feels affection for her or a synapse fires in his brain or he's horny and it's the only safe way for him to say a semi-loving thing OR he thinks it sounds good OR it means nothing at all or his shirt is blue...to me, it's nothing to consider. I'd turn the phone off if it bothers you and tell him not to text after "x" time and not for anything that isn't an emergency. He does NOT have boundaries with you, b/c you don't. No one here can say the magic phrase or sentence that will change him. All we can do is try to support you in changing your life. But you don't seem to be doing that and so, it's frustrating. More like you are getting used to being semi-miserable and saying "things are better" b/c the pain is more of a dull ache instead of a stabbing burning poke...I get it. But you've just been "here" too long.

Good luck S2, you sound like a good mom. I think someone around here will be able to help you "un-stuck" yourself when you are ready. I hope for your sake, and your children's, that the time for you being ready for happiness comes sooner rather than later. You do deserve it, but maybe you don't believe that at some level. I don't know why you feel that way. Sounds like a question for a t or c. Again, good luck[quote]




SO2,

Please listen to everyone here!
25 speaks the truth very eloquently.

You do not owe an explaination to your XH at all for the garnishment and at least not to say it causes you both stress, you maybe but certainly not him.

It sounds wonderfull about your new friend and maybe you can share babysitting so that you may both go out separate and meet people on your own. You know GAL/DETACHMANT!!!!!
Would be good for both of you.

I can not express enough as to how 25 has your sitch figured out it seems. I couldn't have put it to you anywhere near as well and you know how iv'e tried.

Christmas: If you feel you should go do it for a small while and maybe leave before dinner and plan on that at home where you can relax and have a great day overall.
Just a suggestion.

JAK

Last edited by JoJo's circus; 12/18/09 02:38 PM.
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