I know she is struggling too, but I just can't shake these thoughts and images-especially since she sent me a pic of her with the guy, telling me she was flying to see him. I just can't get it out of my head.
No offense, but your wife is an evil b!tch. Conducting an A is bad enough, but rubbing it in your face is cruel.
Also, a book that really helped me recover my self confidence, self esteem, and change from being a pessimist into an optimist is one Coach recommended to me: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman. I'm a BIG fan of Seligman's. Should be able to find a copy on Amazon for less than $5.00.
I know she is struggling too, but I just can't shake these thoughts and images-especially since she sent me a pic of her with the guy, telling me she was flying to see him. I just can't get it out of my head.
No offense, but your wife is an evil b!tch. Conducting an A is bad enough, but rubbing it in your face is cruel.
I know she is nasty. I just never saw this side of her, and I just can't shake the thoughts of her behavior-it is so self destructive.
She has got to find her way, and figure this crap out herself. It is hard to sit back, and watch her do this to herself, and not try to rescue her-but I know she doesn't WANT to be rescued.
She thinks this behavior is perfectly acceptable, and is making her happy. I don't understand how going from man to man, being used, can make anyone happy. Just don't get that.
As far as this guy she is going to see. I firmly believe he will see exactly what she is-a booty call for whenever he is in town. But maybe that is what she wants.
I need to let go of what the he!! she is doing, and what my thoughts are about her. Just gotta let it go.
"embrace the suck" - Coach "don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy Let Go and Let God Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010
She thinks this behavior is perfectly acceptable, and is making her happy. I don't understand how going from man to man, being used, can make anyone happy. Just don't get that.
B/c you can't make sense out of non-sense. So, don't try. It's using up your energy.
I'll bet if you really look back...if you really think about it, you'll see things you turned a blind eye to. I was reading a post from someone yesterday (don't recall who, sorry), and it laid out a series of events that he/she chose to ignore. As I read it, events started playing out in my own mind. Times I probably should have taken a harder look at the way my life was going, but I chose to ignore those events.
Your wife cut the crotch out of someone else's pants. Does that sound like a stable person? You knew she did evil things, but you chose to ignore it.
I'll bet if you really look back...if you really think about it, you'll see things you turned a blind eye to. I was reading a post from someone yesterday (don't recall who, sorry), and it laid out a series of events that he/she chose to ignore. As I read it, events started playing out in my own mind. Times I probably should have taken a harder look at the way my life was going, but I chose to ignore those events.
Your wife cut the crotch out of someone else's pants. Does that sound like a stable person? You knew she did evil things, but you chose to ignore it.
Sadly, we all did. That's why we're here.
There will be many "aha" moments. Some things you ignored, some you just didn't see - love makes you blind. It did me.
SD, I agree, there were signs and things that happened that I guess I rationalized, or she explained it away. Looking back, I kinda feel like a sucker. I really wonder what i don't know. I probably don't want to know. I KNOW I don't.
I know I am going to be better off without her, and all of this new nonsense.
I am starting to detach, and find my way in that area. It is difficult, but I know I will get through it-somehow.
"embrace the suck" - Coach "don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy Let Go and Let God Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010
You're not a sucker. As GIMA just said, love makes you blind. Plus, sometimes it's easier to just carry on with our spouse rather than have to restart our lives. Then one day, these jacka$$es restart them for us.
I know she is nasty. I just never saw this side of her, and I just can't shake the thoughts of her behavior-it is so self destructive.
She has got to find her way, and figure this crap out herself. It is hard to sit back, and watch her do this to herself, and not try to rescue her-but I know she doesn't WANT to be rescued.
She thinks this behavior is perfectly acceptable, and is making her happy. I don't understand how going from man to man, being used, can make anyone happy. Just don't get that.
As far as this guy she is going to see. I firmly believe he will see exactly what she is-a booty call for whenever he is in town. But maybe that is what she wants. I need to let go of what the he!! she is doing, and what my thoughts are about her. Just gotta let it go.
You don't know what she is thinking, feeling or believing. She is responsible for her actions and behavior. Detach and take care of yourself. Very hard to do but neccessary. You can handle it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
