[quote]You need to know that as long as he is in the affair, he is gone. He is living in a very different land. His actions are very selfish and he does not care what these actions do to you. Nothing right now will make him turn to you.But your actions will chip away.[/quote]
Cutter said this to avermont back in early November and I think P, you should think about how it relates to your W and I am putting it on my thread because I am finally feeling like my actions are chipping away at him (finally meaning this last month or so instead of the other 7 months he has been in the A).
Newmama thanks for that.
However, negative thoughts - I see the A becoming long term if I know W. I am not doing any actions to chip away (as you know I'm in NC) although as you said on my thread it will get back to her if I did. But as W looks to have moved on, I don't think she'd care anyway. I know it's negative but there is nothing to tell me any different.
I have no patience, that is my problem!
You on the other hand have been doing fantastically. And he is noticing and liking your changes.
You mentioned in an earlier thread that you were worried he would bring D talk up when he came over ... did he?
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
