gima, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I really appreciate your advice and input, and I am a better man because of it.
Again, and you already know this, you can only take care of yourself, and let the rest just flow. If she chooses to not work through things, that is her loss. You are a good man.
Thanks man. You have some great people giving you some good advice (Coach, Greek, Puppy, and others). As painful as this must be to you right now, you will make it through this and be much stronger than you ever thought you could be.