He's manipulating me now to make me happy so I'm not upset about him going away. Its sick. I don't know how to handle this.
Do not let him manipulate you.
When you _____, I feel ______, I want __________.
When you ask what my plans are for new years and then don't invite me out, I feel FCKING ANGRY AND PISSED. I want to spend it together. Either we stay at home as a family, or YOU arrange for a sitter, lodging, etc......
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
This manipulative cr*p around his snowboarding trip sounds like a dealbreaker. You can't go on living like this anyhow = like roommates - so why not use this as your entree discussion.
Something like : "If you want to continue to live here, you will do so as a responsible father and husband. No coming and going and making plans without talking it over with me. If you want to do whatever you want, then I expect you to move out and let me get on with my life."
