alaskangal: thanks, I will look for your thread. I guess I was just blowing off steam. I suck it up too, he would start to raise his voice and before I would start raising my voice and all h--- would break loose. Now, I am like, okay, I don't want to agrue with you, he has water on the knee, so I asked him if I could do anything for him, he is going Tuesday to have it drained, I asked if he wanted me to take the day off and go with him, he said no. I always ask him on Friday's are you going on a bike ride tomorrow or good for you, how was your ride, so deserve to go here or there, you work so hard. When he took the day off because our daughter was sick I told him that it was really sweet and I appreciated it--has never done that before. Even though, he did not spend the day looking after her, he carted her around town to doe errands, even though I was mad at him for doing this, since daughter was throwing up all day and needed to be in bed. Instead, she just sat in the car with the bucket. I really wanted to yell at him, but kept my cool and thanked him again for staying home. He hates my dad and will say mean things about him to me, which hurts, but I suck it up and let him speak his mind. It seems like you and your ex are starting to rebuild, but how long did it take? How long before you were back in the bedroom? I sometimes wait for him to come home from his bike rides and he will bike ride 75 miles and will not get home until after 9 p.m. and its like, why can't I sleep on the coach once in a while. I know patience, patience.
