Sorry, we're closed. Under new management.

[25yearsmlc]

Thanks all. I'm up for a get together when you guys are.

Relief...went well. As I walked out of the room, my atty took out a yellow legal pad and scratched on it "A++".

It was a waste of time. The one thing that I was able to do was to show with graphs how everything was going straight down, even BEFORE the divorce. He picked on really minor stuff. He requested that I send him the world (2009 credit card receipts, legers, names of all docs that refer to me, insurance companies with provider numbers...everything short of my Calvin Klein boxer briefs.)

Well which is it? Boxers or briefs?? Of course he asked for everything...it's the paper war. I used to object routinely that those motions for discovery were unduly burdensome, harrassment, etc and 90% were, and fishing expeditions...whatever...
Also Frank, about moving...we were military and we did it SO MANY TIMES and the kids adjusted mainly based on our attitudes. Honestly, how we handled it had a huge effect on how they looked at it until they were in middle school and then it got harder. Before 5-6th grade, not much of a problem. They're flexible and interested in new places and new bedrooms, etc. Plus you won't be leaving for faraway and when I say we "moved" I mean different states, different hemispheres and obviously new schools...MOVING IN HIGH SCHOOL SUCKED SO MUCH, I REFUSED TO DO IT AGAIN, to our 2nd child and that was one more reason I stayed here when h left; to keep the promise. Good thing too. The friends they make in high school, CAN be life long. I have about a dozen friends from HS I keep in touch with at least monthly, (but I'm a chick and we do that more)...3 years in one place got to be crucial but again, that was only after they hit about the age of 13...

He asked about whether I had made attempts at other jobs. Of course. Most people recall the job offer I pursued in NY a while back. They asked about a job offer in Maine. Gawd....it was a headhunter postcard that came in the mail that I joked about as being cool at a time that I was still hoping that we might reconcile.
Oh that detailed offer you selfishly refused?? I LOVE the postcard "job offers" my h gets weekly. "Great job with Great PAY and GREAT SCHOOLS!!" (and sometimes the pay IS GREAT) but then you try really hard to decipher exactly where the job is...and you can't...the details are sketchy at best and it's not always to be discreet...it's too lure you into a talk about an area you'd never otherwise think of living in...but OTOH, the best pay h ever got was a job I found for him in an argument we were having about why he didn't HAVE To live up north. It took an hour on the internet, and he said he didn't believe me, (I pretended to be him on the internet) and after I sent a message, they frickin' called him up that night and we flew out a week later and then moved there....yeah, it does happen. IF YOU WANT TO MOVE...if not, oh well. Choices = trade offs. How much $$ is enough? I urge you and everyone to read the book "Your Money Or Your Life" to put it in healthy perspectives...happiness curves with salary increases to a point, b/c WE DO have to have our needs met...and a fun thing or two also, but more than that can give you diminishing returns...

Of course, STBXW nodded, rolled her eyes, "I knew it" looks, throughout...

Atty: "why does she hate you so much?"

I held steady. Really....it was fruitless since I have already gone thru a 9 month forensic financial appraisal. It's quite clear..it's all about money. My atty felt that it was just to rattle me, that it was a waste of time and money.

Did you answer the question or not? God I would have brought out a 10 page list and read out loud the reasons SHE has given you over the past year, starting with the time she called you satan in front of the kids...yeah, that really ought to be the first reason...

I'm OK. Thanks for all your support. Looks like nothing until after the holidays. So..going into the 3rd year.

FIB

You win longest crazy divorce...so far! Sorry Frank but if your L said "A+++" I can't help but feel hopeful...do you?
((( j )))