So my new attitude of strength seems to be working. Working hard in therapy on not taking any verbal abuse and it goes along with DB in terms of GAL, 180s, focussing on self, detaching, dropping the rope, etc.
I told H point blank that I'm thinking of taking S to the snow. This has been a "family" winter tradition and instead of asking H to come I did my 180 and did not mention him at all. He says "Hey, I should be able to come" and starts throwing out ideas for dates and hotels. I couldn't believe it. If I had asked him to come he would have said no. Since he wasn't invited, he wanted in! If he changes his mind, I'm still going - working hard on regaining my power.
It's up in the air, and I still said we'd sleep in separate rooms because inside I'm getting stronger. I'm no longer the "LBS" who will do anything to get WAS back. I'm getting clearer each day that he has a lot of work to do before I accept him back. Everyday he calms down is a step -= and today he was calmer than yesterday.
S5 had a holiday singing concert at his preschool and we all got along great. I do not want to get my hopes up but things are starting to turn more stable around here.
