The continuing saga of P ...

[newmama]

Can I be honest? Nobody has yet said 'P she is in a daze she will talk / communicate / talk ...

Sorry but I don't understand...did you expect that she was going to talk to you during your NC? Or that she would have "woken up" by now? Yes she is in the fog of the affair, that is for sure! I imagine that people haven't said that because, at least for me, I thought it was obvious that she is in a daze!

And I wanted to add that although you don't think she has seen your improvements, she has because you told us you used to cave in and be all talk and little follow through (rewording but I think that's the gist!). Well you have been NC for a solid month. You made her go to IM in another town to get her Christmas stuff! (bravo!) so some of your actions are definitely shining through to her. On top of that, it sounds like information gets to her from people at the shop, right? Or facebook or your MIL. So your GAL is getting to her.

**I wanted to add that when you do see your MIL, be sure to be charming and happy and looking good because it will definitely get back to W!

If you want to move on and file for D, set a date and then see if you still feel like it when the date arrives. I actually had a quick fantasy that all of us on here would make a pact to file for D by choosing the same date and say good riddance! (BUt then I remembered that I don't want to go from man to man looking for WH in all of them)