Haven't been on here in a while but I do think of you all often. My DBing community helped me so much through my x's MLC and thereafter and I really have a place in my heart for you all.
As for me, quite a bit has changed and I wanted to give you all some hope for the holidays.
My ex is finally starting to surface out of MLC. Boy, what a journey for both of us. It's been about five years since it started and four years since he left. There really are phases to this crisis and it has been unbelievable to witness them. But the good news is, I am really starting to seem my ex finally start to surface again. I say this is good because it it is good for the kids but does not mean we are getting back together. But my life has moved forward - in a very positive direction.
Since the big D, I finished a master's degree and have been teaching writing classes at a local college for three years. Been engaged to New Guy for a year and we are working on a date. He is still the most wonderful man I have ever met - I thank God for him each and every day.
Kid are great. S15 and D12 and step daughter to be 10. Couldn't ask for a better family. Kids are thriving and doing better than I had every hoped.
In addition to teaching, I opened up my own transition coaching business six months ago. I have an office in a collaborative office building that is a group of professionals that are trained in collaborative law. I have trained in this specialty as well as mediation training. So far, I have helped about 30 women and a few men through their times of transition - divorces, career change, and other life changes.
Before, during and after my divorce I decided to study why some people made it during tough times and others didn't . I became obsessed in studying those success stories - such as Jack Canfield, Depak Chopra, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Tony Robbins, watched the movie The Secret, read Tuesdays with Morrie, etc. Anyway, I started to take notes and started creating a "greatest hits" for successful strategies on how to move forward during times of change/crisis in your life.
I gathered all my info, put together a website, started blogging, networked my idea to various lawyers and the rest is history. I am now working with a brilliant and very successful female lawyer in New Jersey. I rent space from her office and work directly with her and her clients As a matter of fact, I am now working with businesses going through transition as I can utilize many of the same principles I have used with other clients. In fact, the lawyer I partnered up with to work with her clients has asked me to help her, as well. It has been insane!
So, I wanted to let all those veterans out there that may know my story that I am now working with women that were in my shoes four years ago. I am finally paying it forward and inspiring other to do the same. What an incredible journey.
I promise I will post more. You can follow me on twitter under NJSuccessCoach. Not posting my website but if you want any info, just send me an email to my DB mailbox.
Also, I am in the process of writing a book, too!
Will keep you all posted on future endeavors. But most of all, please know that four years ago I sat on my laptop crying on the keyboard scared to death as to what the future would hold. Little did I know that the future had much in store for me!
