Saffie, hope you are feeling better. I could not make out what you were talkin about with Gabriel and the alternative universe. Sorry but not following.
I am cautiously optimistic. I hope I can be the light and happy person he wants. Doesnt help that his first day back, I borrowed H's van to help an indigent patient of mine transport his wheelchair ramp and ended up doing 2900 dollars worth of damage to my H van's door in the parking garage at work. There is an old saying of my grandma's "No good deed goes unpunished" Then that evening my 22 year old son did extensive damage to our other car. Thankfully everyone was alright. But , H goes from pleasant evenings with Ow watching football and cuddling to car accidents with his family. My friend who is a very born again Christian says Satan is very angry that adultery and lying is not winning and he is striking back!
Yes, it hurts that H really loves her too and is hurting about her. I think you are right that he wants to shield other woman. I just hope he really is committed.
P17 Thanks for your reality dose. I dont know how I will ever know he is 100% committed. After being lied to for 2 years, I dont think I am a very good judge of people. I know you are encouraging me to set boundaries but somehow in my heart knowing my H, I think at the beginning he needs mostly positive, forgiving love and acceptance and very little in terms of demands until he feels more comfortable. HE absolutely hates any kind of confrontation or even any negative feelings. She was always light and happy with no heavy discussion at all. You are probably gonna hit me with a 2 x 4 to the head at this point.
