Ugh, Tostada, you are so right. "I want to tear the rug out from under you, and break your heart, but I still want to be your friend! Barf!
Arwen, it sounds like the meeting was awkward for her and the other woman more than it was for you! Thats her problem, not yours. If you did "talk", what would it be about, what would YOU have to gain from it? Im guessing she wants to try to clear her consience. Screw that! You dont owe her a way to make herself feel better for being a WAW.
Guess what, when you do something terrible, sometimes it haunts you, and Arwen, you dont need to fix that for her!
Oh, by the way- Ive been wondering how you are doing, nice to see you again!
We haven't talked yet. It helps that I have been out of town the last few days on business. :-) When I get back, I am not going to bring this issue up. If she feels the need to get something off her chest, as P17 says, I'll just listen and validate. You're right, Blue- I don't need to fix it for her.
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
