Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

None of this is about her 'seeing' what you have changed.....get it?

What she thinks about you, what she does, where she goes.....none of it is important! She is going to do, think, go, and become whatever she wants to. Those are her choices. What you chose to become is your choice.......for you ALONE!

I'm not sure you're getting this buddy.

You aren't DBing to 'show' her anything. If that is your motivation for making changes to yourself then you are destined to fail. Those are fake changes and she will spot that from a mile away. Real, lasting changes that you make for your own self-improvement and wellbeing are the kind of things that she would notice. The important thing about those though is that you wouldn't care if she paid attention to them or not because they made you feel good.

Stop making this about her! Make it about you!

If you aren't able to do that then go file right now and get it over with sooner than later.