I can take it no more soldiers wife need help

[armywifevampi]

earlyer yes he was at work and he wouldnt stop so i just let him talk and talk and when i see the right one i say ok bye


and again and again till he said that i did not cry at all i was hurt cuz he couldnt say it he couldent he said im done thats it with everything im done


and i said oooo ur done with me thats it k


he did not answer back


i felt good speaking my mind

[armywifevampi]

i did it in a nice way i put my self first ;;;; lest see whats next ...


i wrote him that i was not angry and that i finaly got what i wanted wish was me and im moveing foward and im going to school and so on i spoke about me...... yeahhhhhh

nothing with i love u or nothing with i miss u .... i love him but im not missing him no more is that ok

[bluerain]

It is ok. Now you need to be totally dark. Like I said before, if he calls, or texts, keep it very short, and tell him that you need to go.

He contacted you right? So see, this is working, its catching his attention.

You need to be respectful of his feelings, like it sounds like you were already doing. If he says that he has a problem with something just say, I understand. That does not mean that you agree with him, it just means that you respect his feelings. Its called validating, and its really important.

Im really glad that you are feeling good!

[armywifevampi]

well i was feeling good till today.... buy he beat me down like i was nothing again .... im giving up i am i cant take this no more...

im so weak im starting to belive im the loser thats how bad....

he swipet my face in the gutter like i was durt again... he took out 350 dollors out of the acount and said he took his friends out...


im so so so gone right know if u pinch me i fall my hart hurts like its never hurt in my life he just realy told me off...


i tried to click off i did so bad... and my computer froze just there and i tried and tried and nothing im gone no hope its done...


i dont know i called for help i did and nothing i feel like my life is about to fall he told me he did not care ... about me or doughter or nothing to just leave him alone and thats it...

well im so tierd and my head so weak i can fall asleep for days and try not to come back for a while just sleep and just sleep ...

i think ive put my self in the most lowest spot in the planet ....

[armywifevampi]

i cant even type im so like i dont know nume from everything right now i feel so alone that ive cried till i cant no more ,,,,

but worst then before he did not care nothing nothing nothing ... he said that ive been putting stuff in my doughters head so she wont text him back and thats my falt...

and that everything thats happening is cuz of me and only me....

i dont care i dont anymore im so so so alone ...

[Jstar]

let him spew his bad negative stuff and try very hard not to let it hurt you. what he says now is not the husband you were married to.

it must be in the water for wah, mine upset me so much i just about threw up. i won't talk to him and he is pushing to see daugther, i even sent him freaking boundaries he just keeps testing.

stop talking to him. go dark.

have you gone to a base/fort some military?

he's telling you he took his friends out to hurt and upset you, don't fall for it, the saying is take what he says as 1/2 true 1/2 crap and lies.

[armywifevampi]

its bad very i havent gone to a base cuz its far and ive been tring to work... its afecting my job me... the abilaty to funshion... so much i this morning when i looked...

at my account and saw how much money he took out omg i was so in tears so emotional i went to my boss and told him i couldnt be here....


its hurting me bad very,,, im tring not to and everyone thinks im the bad one i mean everyone is ganging up on me and i cant even hold my self together...

he even told me why u ask u have money some where i know u do ... omg im so down every much so i realy realy do...

he told me so many mean and hate full things i just told him that i did not know him he said well this is me and i ant going to change ...

he realy dont love me at all dose he ... omg

[bluerain]

Hi AW, Im sorry your having a rough day. Did you set up a separate bank account yet?

Did he text all of those nasty things to you? As hard as it is, you need to print them, or send them to an email, you need to save them.

Your insurance will pay for therapy. All you have to do is go to your regular doctor and ask for a referral. I really think that it would be good for you. Has the military one stop hotline gotten back to you yet?

If he starts getting nasty, end the conversation. You need to be establishing respect, his respect for you, and your respect for yourself. Dont fight with him, dont let him yell at you, dont let him call you names. Stand up for yourself to him. He is in the wrong, he is making the bad choices, this is his fault. I dont care what the problem in your marriage was, his behavior is unacceptable.

Go dark, he is acting like a pretty normal walk away husband, and you dont need the abuse from him.

[Jstar]

aw, about 2 months ago i was a complete wreck, i took time off work, to much stress on me and baby. i changed some things, was scared to death to do it, but d2 has come out well.

i took away the stress of seeing h his mother and did not contact him, my first response in 3 weeks or so was just the other day, took me days to respond to his calls and msgs. h rate now is testing me big time to see how serious i am about boudaries i set.

do not award his bad behavior, disrespect for you, cut it off, get some space, clear your head as best you can. the military will help you. be completely dark do NOT respond to anything.

[armywifevampi]

i havent since last night ... but today he contacted my doughter and she whent off on him i mean off i told her not to but she said mom sorry im tierd of him doing us wrong ...

but i told her two wrongs dont make it right... he did what he did to me he did not care about me that he loved her and only her...

that he dosent have to help me only her and so on that he loved me but he was not in love with me ...

she realy realy tried to but him in his shoes but she couldnt belve how her dad changed with me and her so much he told her ...

that where is the respect for him from her she said he lost that long ago when he egnord her like hes doing to me know ...

he said that shes just like ur mother... and that she should respect him that his her dad and no mater what happends he loves her....

but she said to him i dont care cuz u dont care about my mother why should i care about it u say u love her still thow but u dont care so know she cant go to school cuz u wont help her ...

so what now u dont want to help us if u two get splet up.... him oooo ill help u but i dont need to help her .... her yeah but shes my mother and shes going to provid for me while im in colage so u wont help her..... so she can help me and so on its whent.... on for 1hr


she cried she had so much anger she want to tell him off... and me cring for seing this ....

how he tells he he didnt care about me and what happends to me ...

i was hart broken so so so much .... he said i can do it on my own to get another job just like everyone else... she said ooo yeahhh now u got the easy way out and ur in the army and know what forget about mom....

her dreams and mine to i guess.... him ooooo not u u can always have ur dreams she said aaaaaa no dad thats my mom and i would have to help her something u as her husdand and my dad dont want to do ....

and more more more .... he realy was so tence but he keeped on saying i dont care about ur mother thats not his responsibility that she was ....

i feel a little better knowing that he cares for his girl but talking to her like a friend and not a fother... but well im so hurt very hurt.....

and she is to she told him that he didnt even try to work things out with me as a family ....


he didnt say anything....