I know. I had to go to a wedding of a mutal friend of me and the OM's, so I went and we were seated together. He had a couple of drinks and I had fun with his family. I'm glad that is over. I still wanted to go to this wedding, they were my friends too. Ex-h was sick, got what our daughter had. I stayed with them all day Sunday and made dinner for them. Baby steps, baby steps. when I was married to the ex, his sister was getting a divorce and he mailed tghem a letter and they through it in their wood stove and burned it unopened. Whats done is done, I just wish I got to tell my side, but his opinion of me does not matter to me anymore.