Get yourself a nice pair of those Mechanix gloves, its chilly out, a guy needs gloves! And they should protect your hands from getting too messed up by those horse teeth.
BTW, I love the visuals in this thread!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
OMW wife called me today. Isnt it interesting how all this meshes together? We talked for a bit. Its great to conspire against those two, and we know they hate it. She needed to talk about the negotiations of her parenting plan, plus a few things about OM. He expects her to do favors for him still, and sometimes she does. But shes getting better at making him be responsible for his actions. Its taken a long time to get there. They were high school sweethearts and I think she's had a very hard time dropping the rope. Not criticizing because I'm the worst DB'er on the history of this board. He sounds so miserable and angry. I could see that in his face today, just a grumpy ol soul. One thing came up that her kids would not go with their father to do something because my XW was there. Her kids despise her. Thus, OM was pretty angry about that. She also said that he calls her very angry, which is what my xw thinks i am ('someday youll be happy'). Its like they are all focused on this 'happiness' mantra. I remember the whole deal with my xw leaving was because 'she just wasnt happy'. They are trying to force it and I bet with these two explode, they will be much much lower on that 'happiness' scale than when they left their spouses.
Well of course OMW and me are a bit unhappy, this aint all sugar plums and lollipops. She's a very nice person, was a dedicated stay at home mom. He blew it.
Could be a rough few days. Safeway had a big sale on beer and I stocked up. Time to get on it.
What is the possibility of you and OMW finding happiness with each other? My brain just about explodes thinking about that kind of blended multi-family tree diagram. And when you throw in the horse and jack ass, you end up with a mule somewhere in the mix.
I was gonna read throught some of your old pre D posts but you saved me the trouble when you came out with this one liner.
Originally Posted By: Tostada
Not criticizing because I'm the worst DB'er on the history of this board.
You cracked me up again cos I remember what you were like!!!
Anyway I hope you are able to navigate this tough situation with some good humour, and see the funny side of things like we do but don't take it that we don't feel what you are going through. Eventually in time you should be able to focus less on XW and OM but I have to say yours is the first thread I look for now.
OMW met me last night and we had a couple pops together. Let me preface all this nothing will happen. So, she looked fantastic and was fun and easy to talk to. I wish she wasn't OMW. OM blew it because it sounds like she really took care of him and she was the glue to that family.OM told her about the stuff this week. He thinks I'm crazy which is exactly what I want him to think.
While we were talking I rec'd the strangest email from XW.it is so arrogant and selfish, its amazing. I haven't even replied cause the selfishness in it just oozes.
She said my kids were embarrassed by my actions this week and that I need to focus on controlling my behavior.
Second part is her trying to figure out our parenting plan as she scheduled a vacation with the kids on one of my weekends and she needs to figure it all out, and that if she doesn't get the weekend she will let the kids know I put a kabosh on it. She's already discussed her plans with the kids, but its not even her weekend. Ok, my fault again?
Last part is she wants an amicable relationship and wants to know when I'm ready for that. And, that she's not wearing a ring on her ring finger, she's wearing a wedding band from the ring I gave her on her right hand (info got back to her from OMW to OM). Ok a couple comments on that. As long as horse face is still feeding and taking oxygen from the barn, there will be no relationship. And, how weird is it that she's wearing our wedding band? I bet OM loves that.
I don't really even know how to answer her. Her logic or lack of it, continues to blame me for everything and cannot see that her bizarre ridiculous choices create these chain of events. I'm just honestly continuously dumfounded on how she thinks. Its getting worse and worse.
One other strange thing OMW and me talked about. I don't do facebook but I was checking xw page to see if we had any mutual friends on there. Hardly any. But what I noticed was her broadcasting that she was 'single'. Not a big deal. But I checked some other friends pages and nobody shows their status. So I looked at OM page. 'Status: married. Interests: women'. Now, if you're in a relationship, do you tell everyone you're single? And, if your having an affair and everyone knows it, do you put 'married and interested in women'? Its just weird. I wouldn't show anyone anything. My initial hunch was that OM and XW were having a little battle between them with this.
Anyway, I need to craft a response to her ridiculous email this morning. Right now its not going to be politically correct.
I do not have children so take this with a grain of salt. reply
First part. Ignore. Second part. Take the kids. She needs to learn to schedule stuff on her time. Not yours. You need to make sure you document all this. Do not set a precident. Third part. Ignore.
Go very business like on this.
Facts and details. Nothing more.
On the second part. Take a strong stance on this. She needs to learn to ask , and offer something in return. Things people do if they want an amicable relationship.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
As long as horse face is still feeding and taking oxygen from the barn, there will be no relationship. And, how weird is it that she's wearing our wedding band? I bet OM loves that.
T, cracked me up ... horse face LOL ...
Wedding band wearing ... very strange. The impression I get is that your XW wears the trousers in her R with OM so he can like or lump it I'd imagine.
I again feel myself completely agreeing with Cutter.
You can't respond to the first part - she's baiting you.
Kids - you have a schedule. She can't break it, that's actually why it's there so everybody knows where they stand. She told the kids so that she could blame you when you enforce the schedule you both agreed to - she's doing something wrong, hurt daddy by getting the kids mad at him. If you don't enforce this schedule then there will be a next time and a next time.
Third part about amicable relationship. That includes respect and trust. See second part if you want to know how much respect she has for you. When you are finished there, see the previous post you made about her turning up in your driveway with OM. She has zero respect for you. Respect has to be earned. Start by enforcing the schedule.
Just my 2p worth. I have a D and I know about schedules. They are flexible within reason. That goes both ways.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
I totally understand why you are pissed off. She scheduled a vacation knowing full well it conflicted with the parenting plan and did not try to negotiate with you first. If you give in, it could set a precedence that she can just do as she wishes in the future.
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she will let the kids know I put a kabosh on it
This is huge BS. It is called parental alienation. Call her out on this. The kids should have no idea of parenting scheduling conflicts.
Tostada, I feel for you man. It is not going to be easy dealing with her. But it has been done before as in this case. Study up and learn from the past but look to the future.
Ok, cold war update. Not much to report today. She did take the kids out of school two days early prior to a two week break. So I will have to deal with that. If you can guess, I don't think that's too cool, especially when my sons grades aren't exactly stanford material.
Otherwise, nothing to report today. I didn't threaten nor run over anyone, nor try to settle the score with omw (I didn't do this yesterday either). Though she is pretty cute.
