Anita, I have not gone out yet, I don't know if I will. If I do then it is to just do something. She had told me several months back that she wished I would go out with someone. Maybe I would then get off her back. I do not wish to start a new R with anyone, but what if I am meant to. What if we never get back. If it is Gods will for us to be togehter than no matter what she does or I do, then we will. I am still undecided.
Why don't you call his parents and see if they want to talk, don't take his word for it.
Well, his parents are from the old country and the man rules the house. His mom talks to me all the time. She actually told me that she understands my problem but that I made a commitment to God and I should have honored it.(the woman's right) His father I know wants nothing to do with me. He will not talk to me. Its hard because we all get together, both sides for my daughter's b-day and I will try to speak with him, but he just looks at me and stares or just walks away. I think I need to be locked up in a mental ward for a awhile or maybe my OM could just move away--wouldn't that be grand! I screwed up again--I think. I had to go over to his place to get more of my stuff, he went to work and I was too tired, so I slept over. Meanwhile my daughter was getting sick and the ex was getting freakie because I normally handle the throwing up stuff and he couldn't reach me. This morning when I got to work, there was a message in my voice mail, but I heard breathing then the caller hung up. I had a weird feeling, so I check my machine at home and there was a message from my daughter wondering where I was. then I get a call at work from my daughter saying that she was sick all night and that she is at my mom's staying home. I asked if her dad was mad because he couldn't reach me and she said no, but I know he is probably thinking I was with OM last night--I am sooooooo mad at myself today, I'm an idoit!! Why do I continue to do this to myself. All day long I'm thinking at I hope he didn't drive by my apt. and see that my car wasn't there. I called him at work and apolized for missing his call. He said that is was okay. I told him I had to work at 7 a.m. because I have no sick time and I need to go to the dentist, so instead of working 8 -4:30, I'm working 7-3:30--he brought it--now another lie, what is wrong with me!
Anita, you know you can't be anywhere near the OM, for any reason. Don't give your ex any reason to think your back sliding. Yes this was a big no no. But its over move on, don't make this mistake again.
Quote: told me that his parents do not wish to speak with me and not to go over there because they won't talk to me. I really would like to say how sorry I am for what I did to their son and the family. It's like for some reason I feel like I have unfinished business with them or something.
Anita, so whats wrong with writing them a nice long letter, pour out your heart, send the letter to his mom, mark it personal. Old school or not, most of those women actually ran the house. And her H/FIL, will bow to her.
I know. I had to go to a wedding of a mutal friend of me and the OM's, so I went and we were seated together. He had a couple of drinks and I had fun with his family. I'm glad that is over. I still wanted to go to this wedding, they were my friends too. Ex-h was sick, got what our daughter had. I stayed with them all day Sunday and made dinner for them. Baby steps, baby steps. when I was married to the ex, his sister was getting a divorce and he mailed tghem a letter and they through it in their wood stove and burned it unopened. Whats done is done, I just wish I got to tell my side, but his opinion of me does not matter to me anymore.
Anita, how would your ex feel if he knew you were sitting next to OM. You say his opinion doesn't matter. Thats ok, but if you have any expectations of getting back with him, you have to break off all contact with OM. NOW!
Actually elwood my ex and our daughter went to a Halloween party the same time as the wedding, so I wasn't going to see them, so they both don't know that I went to the wedding, after reception, I went home to my place and was up the next morning to meet them at church. I don't offer any information about where I am going, if our daughter is not involved and the ex does the same. Was planning to invite him over to dinner, but at church he looked so pale and after church he told me he didn't feel well at all. So I took daughter for the day, we cleaned and organized her room and I made dinner for them.
well, I get the point but they were my friends and a marriage is something to celebrate. It will be one week since no contact, so I sit in my apartment and wait. I run around and do my errands during Sat morning or after work, so when daughter or ex calls I am there doing nothing, just waiting. If I have to go anywhere, like a couple of Sat. nights ago, I volunteer at the local food pantry and we had a meeting because we were getting a new director. So it was like a dinner meeting and we all had pizza. I made sure that I told ex why our daughter could not stay with me on sat night because I didn't know how long this meeting was going to be (you know when girls get together who know how long before we stop talking) I told him the street address and I parked right out front, so if we wanted to check my story, he could. Even when I was still living with OM, I would spend every Fri and Sat night over the ex's house--if I was how and heavy, would I spend time over there on the weekends? I still have things over the OM's house, I don't know how I'm going to get the stuff.
Sorry for the hijack, but I'm in the 11th hour with my WAW so to speak and am desperate for a new approach. Would you visit me at "Only the Brokenhearted" ?
