I have made a decision to not date right now because I dated a lady that was wonderful, but since I still had feelings for my ex was not able to be what she wanted.....I will not do that to anyone else....
That is fine b/c everyone has to do what they personally feel is right about dating.
What you said about how your W has shut down really brought back how I felt toward my H when I was ready to walk. If she was jealous at first, but not now......is it b/c she thought you were playing games with her when you were dating? I thought she had another man. Maybe I am confused and need to go back and reread your first post.
I will be honest with you, there has been one person that was here on the board whose WAW never wanted to have more than a friendship with him b/c her feelings would not be restored and I simply did not know what else to tell him. However, I have learned from my own experience that feelings can come back but you have to "allow" it and sometimes....even work at getting them back.
Just don't give up. If you don't think what you are doing is getting results then do a 180 and try something else. Maybe she just thinks she is over you. Besides, if you have stopped dating.....she really has nothing to be jealous about, does she?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
