By this time last year, the former spouse who'd been going gangbusters toward the divorce started slowing down. In retrospect he wanted to make sure we filed jointly so he wouldn't take a big a tax hit for 2008. The divorce was finalized January 16th of this year. If it had been finalized in 2008 it would have been tougher financially for him.
So while you do 'Survivor' mode what happens with the potential trial aspect of the divorce? In Connecticut they go by the date the papers were served.
It pains me to realize that the total cost of our divorce was over $150,000 dollars which resulted in a standard settlement. The second attorney the former spouse hired increased the financial toll by 100% between his fees and the interactions between him and my attorney.
Now the cash reserves are nonexistent, no moola for the kids' college, tweaking out an existence because of a housing market where no one is buying (except vultures).
Do what you need to do. In the end I learned that stuff was stuff, that most people end up with the general parameters set by the state and that finally living life after divorce relieves an incredible amount of stress.
Oh yes.. I got screwed because somehow I ended being responsible for half of the combined outstanding legal fees. Sucked the big wad.
