Pat, I have some questions to ask you. How in this world did you raise a son who is 18 yrs old and not set boundaries for him? Did you set boundaries? Or did you sit back and wait on your W to raise him? If you didn't give him boundaries b/c you were "afraid" to do that......then may God help you!! That son of yours will never respect you nor will he be able to love you the way a parent should be loved b/c you were too scared to inforce boundaries.
As an individual person.....do you set boundaries as to how other people treat you? Would you allow somebody to spit in your face and laugh at you and call you every horrible name in the book.....and lay down and beg them to stomp on you as well?
Do you see where I am going with this? If you have a shred of self-respect then you will decide how your W will treat you to your face, or in your home, or in front of your children....whatever. You will set boundaries based on how you feel about yourself--and if you are not man enough to do that with your W, then I don't know how you could expect her to be attracted to you....much less decide you are the one she wants to live with from now on. If you don't think more of yourself than that......how can you expect her to?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
