Thanks for responding elwood-you know I'm always reading your stuff. but it's like he thinks that the divorce was all my fault, everything was my fault. But it takes two and I don't know if he realizes it. Then I was looking through our wedding album while unloading boxes and start thinking that hey, he really never tried either. He took the easy way out as well, but just giving me a divorce. When it got worse, he bailed. I know I'm just as at fault, but I feel think its all my fault and its not and I want to get that across to him. But I think things are getting better. I think I already said this but this past Sunday, daughter called me up and invited me to have dinner over there but I was a om's house getting more of my stuff and by the time I got the message dinner was over--I felt so bad!! I blew a chance! But this weekend I will invite him over to see the apartment and have dinner. Why does he still have our daughter invite me???? I mean except for this Sunday, I always except the invitations????