Not Me...Ever part 2

[Serenity13]

Coach ~ I love the "soulution"

[Serenity13]

Deep ~

Always nice to see you

I loved what you posted because it made me stop and think for awhile.

I do agree with what you said about the dynamic of the LBS/WAS -

Once I reread what you were saying, it made complete sense.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

[luvless]

I hope to be where you are soon!

[Serenity13]

(((Luvless)))

It wasn't any easy road to travel down however once I realized that I didn't want to live like that, things started to change.

I wasn't there for my kids, my job, nothing - I was just existing, on most days I felt like I was one step away from suicide and along with prayer, therapy, counseling from my Pastor and (with an enormous amount of patience) Puppy, only then was I able to get to this place.

I posted here but didn't follow advice...

I read into each word he spoke & each move he made.

I ended up getting hurt over and over and over again.

Once I took in what was being told to me, the dynamics within me started to change.

I refused to own my H's affair period.

He had numerous other alternatives at his disposal if he was truly that unhappy.

The one he chose was the most destructive, detrimental & cowardly one possible.

The example he set for my sons has been a very hard thing for me to rid them of and the behavior he has displayed has been very heartbreaking to them and to me.

While I still want my marriage to work out and I still love my H more then words can say, in the end, I now know either way, I will be just fine.

[rockedworld]

While I still want my marriage to work out and I still love my H more then words can say, in the end, I now know either way, I will be just fine.

Yes, you will my friend, yes you will.
The longer I have followed the thread, the more convinced I am of that. You are an amazing, strong woman and I admire you.
Rocked

[chatterbug]

Serenity its cold up here. If you need company. I am sure I can find some fellow canuacks who would love to be a snow bird for a few weeks

[Serenity13]

((((Rocked))))

The feeling is mutual my friend...Don't ever forget that

[Serenity13]

(((Cutter)))

First thank you for the plan A & B you posted...I need to really read over it later when the little one goes to bed.

Second thank you for answering the questions I posed to you.

Third you are always welcome...Don't except a bunch of sun though - It has rained for the last 4 days and it is cold (well cold to us - 47 degrees)...Should be warming up once the rain moves away though

[luvless]

(((Luvless)))

It wasn't any easy road to travel down however once I realized that I didn't want to live like that, things started to change.

I wasn't there for my kids, my job, nothing - I was just existing, on most days I felt like I was one step away from suicide and along with prayer, therapy, counseling from my Pastor and (with an enormous amount of patience) Puppy, only then was I able to get to this place.

I posted here but didn't follow advice...

I read into each word he spoke & each move he made.

I ended up getting hurt over and over and over again.

Once I took in what was being told to me, the dynamics within me started to change.

I refused to own my H's affair period.

He had numerous other alternatives at his disposal if he was truly that unhappy.

The one he chose was the most destructive, detrimental & cowardly one possible.

The example he set for my sons has been a very hard thing for me to rid them of and the behavior he has displayed has been very heartbreaking to them and to me.

While I still want my marriage to work out and I still love my H more then words can say, in the end, I now know either way, I will be just fine.

This gives me hope even though I feel at my lowest right now. I know this will end and I will be ok too. It's so hard to see but I know it's there.

[Serenity13]

(((Luvless)))

My friend it is there...

I am not good at 2x4's though sometimes that is what we really need at that moment so I would defer Puppy to you for that.

Some days I am so low I don't want to get out of bed however to give in to that would allow him to "win" -

I don't mean that in a competition way, I mean that in a way that I won't allow his actions to affect me and my moods...

I choose to get up and get moving with a smile on my face -

Sometimes it is an act however by the end of the day it has taken over.

I want my boys to see that just because adversity is happening doesn't mean you have to give in to it.