H had Emotional Affair w/ Ex GF-Now I can't trust

[newmama]

Two days straight this week, he ignored my text messages again. Normally I wouldn't think much of it, but this time I just flipped out. I hate who I have turned into. He told me he just didn't check his phone but I can't help but think how I fell for that line the first time. Now I am ignoring him because I feel like its pointless to go forward if I can't trust what he says. Why even talk?

Cutter's list is very good. You should also know that trust is what makes reconciling so difficult.

I WAS TOO LAX after dday #1 because I didnt want to be a babysitter/parole officer and he took the A underground. So, I will add some suggestions based on hindsight:

Do not let WH try to end it in person.INSIST on No Contact Letter.

Ask WH for a schedule of his daily events. (My WH is very routine so if he fell out of it, it was a red flag like if he left work at 6 not 5:30)

Tell him that for awhile you will need to hear from him frequently throughout the day/return your calls or texts within certain time.

You can check his phone, but be aware that he can delete messages and phone logs. (Mine did)Online records hopefully are better indicators but I don't remember if they are able to show same day activity.

Change his phone number.

Expect OW to keep trying to contact him and insist he tells you when she does, but he has to ignore her. Stay calm when he tells you.