Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok,
I see what you are saying. I am in a bad place right now as far as my W and the things she is doing. It really almost is making it easier to just say he!! with her. I mean, I still have feelings for her. But, knowing what she has done-is doing, just turns my stomach.
I asked myself this question:

Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life? No chance my friend.

[givingitmyall]

Most importantly, is that the kind of M you want to model for your boys?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

gima,
well, one of my friends just called, and asked me to go out tonight to watch the football game. I declined at first, but he wouldn't take no so I am going.

I am normally NOT the going out to a bar guy, but this place has food, and is a sports bar, so hopefully it will be fun.

GO JAGUARS, BABY!!!

[SoldierDad]

Puppy, my buddy is a die hard Colts fan!!!!
Myself-die hard, bleed purple Minnesota Viking fan.

SKOL VIKINGS!!!!

[MichelleLT]

This is not how you will spend the rest of your life. This is a short-term thing that will end in either D or R.

Keep in mind what your W is modeling to your kids about Rs. When things get tough, give up.

What do you want to model about Rs for your boys?

[givingitmyall]

Hey puppy, I grew up near jax, so I pull for the jaguars too. Gonna be a tough one tonight though.

[SoldierDad]

LT, I agree.

They both see the unhealthy behavior, as they have talked to me about it. The drinking, the hurtful words, late nights out-or NOT coming home, etc, etc.

I must be the solid role model, show them the right way to handle adversity, and manage relationships. They both have said that I didn't do anything wrong-I quickly corrected them, but they know their M is completely crazy right now.

I will give them as much normalcy as I can over the next week, and set a solid foundation for them to stand on.

She is also teaching them to speak to someone you love in a disrespectful manner, disregard your children, and that fast food is groceries. S15 told me he HATES fast food now-crazy huh, a teenager.

[soleil]

Soldier, I am sending you a big hug and some good happy feelings.

[SoldierDad]

Thanks, Soleil. I need it.

[MichelleLT]

Have fun tonight!

Keep putting one foot in front of the other and be patient with the rest. Be all that you can be.