Also, I feel that if I set a boundary (and I have) she will just feel as though it will be easier to just D.
Pat, as much as it will pain you to hear this and for me to say it, if a spouse wants to D because you set a boundary then for goodness sake let them go. They are no good to you or anybody else. That is what children do - throw tantrums and their toys out of the pram.
Is that is the kind of spouse you want, then good luck with that.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
