DR is definitely the better of the 2 books. I thougth that the theory talk in DB about SBT was maybe best left for more advanced psychology books.

Kevin, one thing I think is important is to set a timeline on how long your are willing to wait for your marriage to reconcile.

In the meantime, if you want to improve and understand your interactions with the opposite sex better...

Hold on to your NUTs: The relationship manual for men

For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women