Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[MichelleLT]

It's hard to break old habits. You have spent years fixing everything for her. Or trying to at least. As you can see, they were merely band-aids, not true fixes. The true fix has to come from her.

You haven't done anything wrong. You are the one who is on this forum agonizing over how to make it work. You are the one who is trying, in a healthy way, to improve yourself and to be a good parent.

But the shocks you have received do horrible things to the self-esteem. It takes time to recover. Be patient with yourself.