I would ALWAYS have questions, I would always have doubts-is she thinking of him? etc, etc.
You have no control over the latter, but insisting on transparency can help with the former.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement