The really hard part for me right now, is the detachment. I have read-re-read on detachemnt, but I am struggling with just letting go, and dropping the rope. I hope it comes with more time and effort on my part.
Two separate and distinct concepts. Detachment is going to the worst case scenario in your mind and realizing you will be ok.
Dropping the rope, on the other hand, is when you have said "I'm done." Not b/c you are angry pi$$ed off or hurt. But b/c you have worked through those issues and have DECIDED through reasoned thought that you do not want this situation anymore. And it is NOT walking away, I don't think. You can remain open to reconciliation, on your terms, while at the same time, march forward on D.
It took me a while to develop detachment and even longer to drop the rope. But I don't have an A (I don't think) in my sitch. That might have sped me up a bit.
