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[MichelleLT]

Happiness comes from within. She is not making herself happy.

She is looking outside herself for happiness, and she won't find it. In fact, her regrets/guilt for her actions will make it even harder to be happy.

It's important to acknowledge what we could have done differently/better in the M, to take responsibility for our half. But some of it is her fault - first and foremost for not asking for what she needed, asking for counseling, whatever else she could have done to fix things instead of having an A / As.

Her actions are HER CHOICE. You cannot shoulder the blame for them. It's NOT your fault.

Unless there is some legal reason to respond or it's about the kids, you say NOTHING. She's trying to get a rise out of you. Don't give her the satisfaction. I would say set a boundary about her not sending them, but in reality they help you out legally so much that it's better that she sends them.