Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

Spent quite a bit of time with S7 last night. When W was here, the house was always trashed. The dining room table was always piled so high with S7's "projects" that we never ate dinner together. W and I would eat in front of the TV, and S7 usually ate in front of his computer. I always hated that, because I grew up in a large family that ALWAYS ate dinner together each night, and felt that S7 was missing out on that family time. Since W left and I got the house cleaned up, S7 and I have been eating dinner together at the table every night (or occasionally, at a restaurant together). It's a small thing, but I think it's important.

Son had several library books from school, so after his shower, we started a fire in the fireplace and read together for almost a hour. He's nuts about astronomy, and we've gone through every book in his school library related to that subject.

After S7's bedtime, I forced myself to not get on this forum until I had at least one more master bathroom wall plastered, and got it done by about 11pm. Two walls to go, and I'll be ready to paint. I'd like to have it painted and ready to tile the floors by Christmas/New Years, when I have several work days off to finish it.

W made it over this morning a little earlier than usual. Spent about 15 minutes chatting with her. W said she told roommate that she wasn't going to RM's family's for Christmas (their previous plans). RM apparently got upset, and W told her that she had a chance to spend Christmas with her son, and that's what she wanted to do.

W played me some of the ringtones she had set up on her new phone. She has "My Name is Mudd" as her primary ringtone. She said it was appropriate. Funny, too...because one of the first dates we went on we "danced" to that song, as both of us were big Primus fans at the time (Les Claypool is still one of my bass-guitar heros).

It was time to go, so I stood up and W reached out her arm as if she wanted a hug. Since she didn't stand up to do it, I acted like I didn't even see it, and told her goodbye.

As I was leaving, she asked me about the bankruptcy lawyer's appointment, and I told her I didn't really want to talk about it, but it didn't look like we were going to be able to qualify/file. She told me she was sorry.

She said that she was planning on getting a better job by the end of January, because she realizes she needs to make more money and get more hours than she is right now, to cover her expenses. Then she says unless we can work things out where I can go to school. I was in a hurry, so I didn't ask her what she meant by that, and I've tried not to over-analyze it.