Don't apologize Rabbit, that's what this forum is for!
Good for you for sticking to your boundaries while "piecing". That is so important. If either you or he just lets things slide back to where they were before you will be back on the newbie forum a year or so from now! I am trying to remember that too. There are some really important boundaries I established while he was living in limboland that I need to maintain! It is not easy!
But... I have noticed that he actually seems to appreciate it when I do that. Maybe not at first, b/c it feels like "telling him what to do" (my H has an issue with that just like yours) but then after he gets over that initial reaction he seems to respect me for having my position.
I think it is all in how we present those boundaries. They can be done in loving but firm ways.
Keep going Rabbit, you are doing so well! I have a feeling you are going to have a wonderful Christmas!
