I haven't asked him directly and, duh... that would make sense wouldn't it? I do think we need to have a conversation about it, I just didn't want that to feel like pressure either.
Suggesting he talk to his IC is a good idea too. Again, I don't want to make too big a deal of it, but I think that would help. He has only had 2 sessions so far, says he feels very comfortable with her, but I am guessing his male pride won't let him confide that part yet.... hopefully he will in time.
Hope, you are right, I think that guilt is a m-f'er. that about sums it up. I think my H was struggling with depression before the A, still is, and now has guilt on top of it.
Thanks also for the story you shared with me. My H said to me last night, "You are saving me, literally saving me. If you are ever feeling insecure in our relationship again, just remember that. That alone deserves me making this up to you for the rest of my life." So, yeah, I think he is already starting to realize my worth and value in sticking by him when he doesn't deserve it.
I do think we need to have a conversation about it, I just didn't want that to feel like pressure either.
