Well seconds before I started typing I was about to say things were going along nicely and then somehow we got into an argument our first really!
This evening H was going to tell our son (21) that we were back together and then next week he was visiting my parents and sister and was going to do the same! Now I have issues with my sister, during our time apart H has developed rose tinted glasses about how she was always his friend and not the darling sister who for the past forty odd years has dropped me in the cart and got me told off by our parents for things I havent done, and hasnt spoken to me for nearly four/five years. Well one of my boundaries was that he could only be friends with her if she was treating me like a friend, we will never be true sisters I just dont trust her and never will. Anyway it rattled the alien within him about not being told what to do, I started my position quietly and calmly and said it wasnt he couldnt be friends but it was one of my boundaries transparency about it and she has to be joint friends not just his, we left it as he would sort it, and I left it that I wanted to get my boundaries out at the beginning as I dont want to get months into this and he not like a percieved new boundary and go again, Im not going through this again, he does have to realise I have been single for six months and Im not just falling in with him cos Im so desparate to have him back!
He also threw in that we were nearly back together as we wernt living together all the time, I just replied either we were or we wernt I wasnt doing Xmas in limbo, guess what we are together lol! He also brought me a lovely pair of woollen gloves today, I did ask him to see if he could find me a pair but he did and they are lush too!
Sorry this is long just need to get stuff off my chest.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
