Originally Posted By: bright_new_day
Originally Posted By: figgeroni
we accepted it because someone we loved and who we believed loved us was telling us that...in actions as well as in words...

i compare it to an abusive relationship
(which I have been in too...)
no one would be in a relationship with a person who punched them on the 1st date
but
they don't smack you on the 1st date

they didn't treat us like we sucked on the 1st date


Sadly it was the opposite. I think that is part of the personality disorder, making you trust and eventually become dependent on them.

but never again, right?


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012