I love that phrase ---- so true. All kinds of tragedy, pain, and upheaval in ones life is an invitation to wisdom, if you allow it.
BTW, have you thought of selling your XH's drum set on E-bay? I bet he bought the best set money could buy, so you should get quite a bit for it.
Take care.
part of the D settlement--that he wants his drums and his bike (is it just me, or does that sound a lot like an 8-year-old?!). He just hasn't picked them up. But I can't sell them. and yes, his drums are top-of-the-line.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012