I'm trying to find "what works" but with so little contact, there's very little opportunity to try one thing or another!

I have to get to a meeting now, after that is the meeting with him.

updates to follow--thanks to all--

Avermont

Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process