"Hurting people say hurtful things." So so so true. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her. She is lashing out, and you are convenient.
I know it's hard to believe, but it's really not personal, and try not to take it personally. She will say many more horrible things, I heard all the same stuff, I have since gotten some apologies, they really are just lashing out emotionally trying to get a reaction. Sometimes they don't remember a lot of what they've said later.
Glad you get to spend all the time with your boys!!!!! Have a blast!
And, of course, document all that for your L. She's making this far too easy lol
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2