One day at a time....

[Hope4us]

Rocked, Funny, I'm kind of dealing with the same thing although a woman can "perform" even if she's not in the mood or feeling guilty.

I'm not sure I have any advise as I've never had a problem like that....well....except when too much tequila is involved. But anyway, not sure what to tell you.

I know guilt can be a m-f'er. I've seen it really affect my W. When she doesn't think about stuff or has enough to drink, she lets herself go, but since the troubles, she's said to me a number of times "I just don't feel sexy".

So what to do with that? Patience, no pressure, understanding. And I agree with Pearl, probably something to discuss with his IC. Might be something deep seated there affecting his performance. Seems like just one more thing that us LBS have to carry the load on.

I guess that's a long winded way to say I understand without really having any advise.