I'm thrilled for you for your recent developments.
This is the first thread of yours I've followed, but is there a reason your cousin thinks she's your mother and that you're 5 years old? Did you bash your XW to her a lot before? She seems to have some quite strong opinions of your personal life which, IMO, she needs to realize you're a big boy and your not new at this parenting thing--having preteens--and she really should, to put it bluntly, STFU about what she thinks is best for you and your kids.
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