Algal,

Been there, am there, verbally abusive man. H has been much better, but then I don't see him every day. I remember shortly after this all started and H was thinking about D'ing and losing his pension..which is this guys life...looking at me and saying "I'll kill you" with venom.

Here is a great website on verbal abuse.

http://www.drirene.com/

If I can do this you can do this...don't leave us. You've given me such great advice and insights.

Cathy