Alaskangal.... I've read the last few pages of your posting, not everything from the beginning, though. Please get this book: "The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond" by Patricia Evans.
Here is the Amazon link: (I had to break it to make it fit, so copy and paste it into your browser) http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1558505822/qid= 1072070944/sr=1-1/ref=sr_1_1/103-0733891-3887040?v=glance&s=books

I was in a verbally, emotionally, and going into a physically abusive relationship at one time in my life. If this book had been available then, perhaps I wouldn't have remained in that situation for as many years as I did.

What your Husband is saying to you is abusive. It is not acceptable no matter what the circumstances of your behavior are. You need to stop it, and sometimes the only way to do that is to leave. This book will help you to assess your options in a relationship - what to do if the abuser RECOGNIZES his abuse and is willing to change, and what to do if he does not. Please send for it immediately - it might just save your life, and it WILL change it.

My best to you,
Lucy

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