BeingMe, you've also been with me here for a long time. Thanks.
She pulled that custody thing because she knows it'll get my attention. She was feeling bullied by me and she wanted to try to assert her power. I didn't back down, but it did work to some degree. She instilled a bit of fear in me that she'll try to take the kids.
I also agree that our M will not be over for quite a while yet. I just re-read your very first post to me, and you said how it wasn't until you declared you were done, and started living your life just for you, that your H came around. I've started down that path. We'll see where it goes.
My W's A started long before we were separated. She's trying to wiggle out of being labeled a cheater, which I've never called her. I've only used the word affair a few times in total, but that's definitely what it was.
